Positively Reckless

Well, this certainly isn’t something I would have ever seen coming -- especially having grown up in the era of HIV shaming.

The famed Ethicist column in the New York Times actually told a reader that it was hunky dory for people living with HIV to not disclose their status to their sexual partners -- leaving out the fact that 25 states still have laws criminalizing people with HIV for not disclosing their status before sex, often even if they are undetectable and hence no HIV is transmitted. 

Educators and activists are calling on writer Kwame Anthony Appiah and the Gray Lady to correct this "grievous error," but so far this request has fallen on deaf ears.

Tim Murphy writes: 

The really appalling thing is that other advocates have pointed this out to the Ethicist himself, his editors and NYT communications people SINCE EARLY FEBRUARY and they have not replied to anyone OR made a correction. Talk about not taking responsibility for an omission that could put people in grave danger.

The full story -- including how you can voice your concerns as well -- HERE.

Meanwhile: Andrew Spieldenner, head of the global nonprofit MPACT, talks to Tim about LGBT health rollbacks likely to happen in the U.S. -- and whether today's gays can meet this moment they way we did in the 1980s. Read HERE.

Remains of the Day (02/19)

Brian Ferrari: 27 years after his death, photographer George Platt Lynes’s male nudes were published in the August 1982 issue of In Touch magazine, introducing what is now considered to be his best work

Tennis: Novak Djokovic says tennis players have a "lack of trust" in doping agencies after Sinner case

Threads: Young and hot Adrian Zmed and Peter Scolari on a 1979 episode of the beloved but short-lived sitcom “Angie.”

The Guardian: Trans military members on feared ban

Wrestle Wednesday: Joss Dominguez knows how to wear -- and remove -- a singlet

NBC News: The photo booth is turning 100 -- meet the people keeping it alive

Advocate: In a surprise to no one, the Kennedy Center has canceled Gay Men's Chorus performance planned for WorldPride

The Randy Report: Guy Pearce felt targeted by "handsy" Kevin Spacey filming "L.A. Confidential" -- Spacey thinks Pearce needs to grow up

Fashionably Male: Former rugby player Alvise Rigo is packing in Yamamay Man’s latest underwear collection

NYT: South African imam and gay rights advocate Muhsin Hendricks is shot dead

The Gene Pool: Hilarious interview with Drew Goins, everyone's favorite "Jeopardy!" contestant

Attitude: "Baby Reindeer" star Richard Gadd begins filming next TV show alongside Jamie Bell

BBC: Rick Buckler, drummer of The Jam, dies at 69 ... Paul Weller remembers his bandmate HERE.

Here in NY: Limelight was once New York’s hottest club, but the music inside this church has long been gone

Boy Culture: Patrick Schwarzenegger's body -- clothed or otherwise -- did not disappoint in "The White Lotus"

Hot Cat of the Day: For a Muslim, my boyfriend doesn't seem as tickled as I would have expected/hoped!

Ruin Road: Thanks to the reader who pointed me to a brand new documentary about the Oakland County child killer that terrorized my youth in suburban Detroit. Learned a lot -- including the fact that the blue Gremlin was a red herring and a kid in my Madison Heights neighborhood had been abducted but later released. Free to watch HERE.

ICYMI: Terry Sweeney recounts what it was like to be the first openly gay cast member on "Saturday Night Live"

The secret gay history of "SNL"

The best (and worst) LGBT sketches in "Saturday Night Live" history ... Matt points out that "Pinklisting" and "Schmitts Gay" both should have been included

Entanglements: If you're in the Hudson Valley, please be sure to check out my friend Mark Allen and partner Will McLeod's ode to Mary Richards (and inflation!) at Circle 45 Gallery through March 30. 

T-shirts available HERE.

Tennis Tuesday: Andrea Vavassori

Any uncertainties I had about the existence of a god were erased over the weekend when I saw this new Yamamay Man ad campaign featuring Italian doubles specialist Andrea Vavassori. (Jesus H. Christ!) More to worship BELOW.

All About (Last) Eve

Although we weren't able to do it on Feb. 14 this year, Damian and I kept our Valentine's Day tradition alive of seeing a classic film for the occasion yesterday when we caught a screening of Joseph Mankiewicz's "All About Eve' at the Metrograph downtown. (In 2015 we saw "The Philadelphia Story" at BAM and have never looked back!) It was Damian's first time seeing Bette Davis's sublime performance as aging Broadway star Margo Channing and, having not seen it in decades, all but mine. 

I certainly can't tell "the gays" anything they don't already know about this masterpiece that won six Oscars including best picture and best director. But boy is it a thrill from beginning to end. (At one point Damian turned to me and whispered: "I just got chills"!) xo 

Weekend Tennis Roundup

Titles for Fonseca, Humbert, Kecmanovic and Anisimova. Full report plus all the ATP beef that's fit to post BELOW. 

Ultra Tiny Shorts

Photo Finish

 

Still in shock about the death of Gary Caesar, a gifted photo editor and former colleague whom I'm so grateful to have known for more than 20 years. Gary's sense of style and million-dollar smile will never be forgotten, but I'd be so happy to see him one more time. Rest in peace, my friend.